I know not all of us lupies are female. Nevertheless, the majority is.
As a woman, I tend to take care of others despite how I am feeling. As a professional, I have been independent and decisive for years, which makes it hard to ask for help. This is not a helpful daily combination when I need to avoid flares.
We all know that our muscle and body pain, emotional struggles, medication side-effects, and drop-dead fatigue days are real, but unfortunately, these symptoms are all invisible to the human eyes. That’s why I believe we are the ones in charge of setting the boundaries, saying what’s enough for today and take a break to care for ourselves. People around me cannot read my mind, so it is my responsibility to step up and say it.
It’s easy to get burnout, and it is a dangerous route. We all have been there.